Dont Judge me... Just be my friend......

 "I want to sit with friends who dont judge and I just want to have a good time" .... this is what one friend told me.

I got it....'You be you' .. 'I be me'... we find a common ground to connect, converse and respect each other. 




Including my years studying, it will be 20 years in the USA this fall. 13 of the 20 were spent in one city. My formative years of making a family, making friends, increasing my friend circle to finally decreasing my friend circle. Last 5 years, i stuck with 4 other families....didn't find the need 

However we changed cities..we didn't know a soul in the new place...I struggled a bit ....I felt as I did in my first year in the USA. slowly we met people...I realized that I enjoyed speaking with people who were so varied from me...I was not trying to find my tribe

I focused on identifying why I like to meet the people that I meet. There may be many qualities but atleast whats the one quality that I love about them. I was clear that I wont make friends to increase count and once I return after spending time with anybody, I should feel energized. It should not feel like an ordeal. 

To my friend who loves making a reel, to my friend who is an expensive hand bag collector, to my friend who is openly lazy, to my friend who is super talented but doubts her self, to my friend who is super dominating, I like you all.... Thank you for adding joy to life. 

I am not classifying my friends whether they are close, far, important, or my immediate circle. I enjoy meeting them when I do. I have also realized that with this open mindset I have more friends in my new city than I did in my past life....though I will like to confess that my 4 friends from my past life have become my sisters...:)

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Rose Abraham said…
❤️ you girl!! Miss you
April 14, 2023 at 11:34 AM
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