Blog = Pseudo Intellectual chauvinism

 "I want to sit with friends who dont judge and I just want to have a good time" .... this is what one friend told me. I got it....'You be you' .. 'I be me'... we find a common ground to connect, converse and respect each other.  Including my years studying, it will be 20 years in the USA this fall. 13 of the 20 were spent in one city. My formative years of making a family, making friends, increasing my friend circle to finally decreasing my friend circle. Last 5 years, i stuck with 4 other families....didn't find the need  However we changed cities..we didn't know a soul in the new place...I struggled a bit ....I felt as I did in my first year in the USA. slowly we met people...I realized that I enjoyed speaking with people who were so varied from me...I was not trying to find my tribe I focused on identifying why I like to meet the people that I meet. There may be many qualities but atleast whats the one quality that I love about them. I was clear th...

This is about my trip to Chicago during the easter break. My brother's friends had decided to meet up at a club and he said that we come along as well. My husband and me are acquainted with a few of his friends but not that well, so we were apprehensive about going. But I had a great time there. There were about 7 girls and all of us danced together, no boys. Wow... it reminded me of college times. It was a lot of fun. So I think that next time we go out here in Indy, we girls can have fun on our own. And that makes me thinking that when will have our girls' nite sleepover again. The last one was so much fun. So my friends if you are reading this lets plan on one soon. Girlfriends are indispensable. Chicago reminds me of another funny incident. We all had gone to the signature lounge in the Hancock tower for a drink. I had heard that the view from up (95th floor) there is great, and why pay to watch chicago from SEAR's Tower when you can have a drink at the signature loung...

It's been so so long since I wrote something on my blog. Its not that I didn't have ideas but I didn't think they had enough substance.... Like I wanted to write about Jodha Akbar- there were such mixed feelings. Such a long movie, but I couldn't blame the actors. I think that the director was to blame for he thought that every thing he directed was so precious that it could not be edited. I think that some scenes could have been taken off. Also there wasn't any coherent theme in the movie. It was a good buffet... but don't we always get tired of buffets. It wasn't clear if he wanted to demonstrate Akbar's greatness, Jodha's strength of character, the love between Jodha-Akbar, the political instability at those times, etc etc.... Anyways Jodha Akbar is long gone and most people I have known have liked it... Then my friend had said that she was waiting for me to write about JUNO. After I watched the movie, I didn't have enough motivation to write....

Feminism.............. Wohhhhhh this word ticks off "many" people and I assume that the majority of those "many" would be men. Yes, this is true, but surprisingly in recent times there are lesser younger women who associate themselves with this term. I am writing this blog as an offshoot to a discussion in class. My professor made a comment that "my husband is a feminist, he will not do the car oil change for me, he does dishes, and he cooks too ". I understood what she meant, " breaking away from traditional gender roles" is as simple as she described her husband's trait. To me then, feminism works wonder for both men and women. Why is that the word feminist arouses strong emotions and reactions. And please to all those reading, dont start cursing under your breath. And some how I do realize why many dislike the word. I know many people perceive feminism to be equivalent to men bashing. As a lay person, Feminism to me means providing...

Recently it was my husband's birthday. Birthdays are fun, but they bring along some anxiety with them. The million dollar question- What present shall I get him? I can brainstorm this issue and still never arrive at a satisfying conclusion. So lets begin.. If your husband is finicky- you can not buy clothes, shoes etc etc (if he doesn't wear it, I will feel bad) If he is tech savvy- then he knows what is the best thing to buy, read all the freaking reviews and even know a better place to get a decent deal. If you had earlier asked him to prepare a wish list (I tried that too), then all the things were so expensive (I could not spend that much money). If your husband prefers tangible things, then all other ideas such a surprise trip, and other fancy ideas can be thrown out as well. (Last time I bought him a package of guitar lessons, I am not sure if he thought it was the best present). If you are too finicky then you dont want to be repetitive and give something similar to wha...

My husband left yesterday for out of station on an office visit. This meant that I was alone in my apartment for 2 days and 1 night..... Well what does that leave me with. Finally some alone time..... or back to bachelorhood days (as my husband teased me) or that I will be eagerly waiting for him to return, counting every hour? Yes, counting every hour is precisely what I did. And as I am writing it, I am truly ashamed of it. I suddenly had this feeling that just because one spends all their time with their partner or is habituated to living with someone, it is hard to go back to being one your own.. I told my husband that it is hard to imagine how people live alone. And then he said to me that living alone is not a problem, but once you get into the habit of living with a partner, then it is hard to go back to living one. This reminded me of a lecture on social psychology in my undergrad that for people who have not been in love, Love is not a big deal. But for someone who has experie...